It is a major discipline: to feel another human being’s attempt to control me and forgive such a sin while I choose to refrain from it, even while feeling my own lack of personal control.
(Discipline as in self-restraint)
And mistrust is probably a bi-product of attempted control.
We have all seen the parents who try to control their kid. They feel the need to control someone else because they lack the ability to control themselves. And the kid grows up rebellious towards all forms of parenting and struggles to trust leadership.
It is easy for me, an adult who has learned from experience, how to deal with emotional abuse, to reject emotional control while remaining in a position of servanthood/submission. But for a child, there is no mental grid for it—you just do as you are told and suffer the consequences.
Someone who is having a bad day—they project negative feelings into the air like a poison and to hold your breath is sometimes even more than a discipline because you are sprinting a race right beside them.
Teamwork was the original method to performing but one of us is feeling out of control which is leading everybody to have trust issues.
To tag that thought—if I can successfully refuse to be controlled, I will have successfully avoided all chance of developing a trust issue towards the person who made the attempt.
What would the world look like if we each understood that humans are imperfect and if we learned to forgive?
Forgiveness—the true discipline I am referring to here.
Forgiving someone even while they do not see their need for mercy.
“You’re running the wrong way, team captain! But it’s okay, I’ll finish the race for us while I hold my breath. And after it is all done, I will hand you the trophy.”
Who deserves the trophy anyways?
The race belongs to us all.
I have tangented, but all this to say, discipline sucks in this case…it is pure misery. But relationships are worth it…at least to me.